What I learned from David Lelliott

David Lelliott is the British Deputy High Commissioner Chandigarh. David is a career diplomat with over twenty years of experience. He gave a talk at the Youth Leadership Awards Chandigarh. The talk was titled “Seven Lessons from Seven Postings”. The seven things I learned were:

  1. Value the training you are given.
  2. Look after your team.
  3. Step out of your comfort zone.
  4. Listen with open ears.
  5. Values you have, pay you off.
  6. Relationships are worth .
  7. Appreciate the small gestures.

He talked about these while sharing his experience of being a British diplomat on in the Middle East, Latin America, Africa and Europe, as well as two spells in London.

After the talk I spent around half an hour with him. I asked a bit of questions of my own. The first one was, being a diplomat having a lot of stressful work what were his stress buster tips? And I got some pretty good ones. He told me he enjoys the work he does so it does not get turn into a burden. He said he straight away says no for working at holidays (except in times of crisis or when required badly). He said it is essential to follow a good life pattern. The third point he said to me was that he looks and accepts the reason of his work and his actions.

I also asked him if he was for or against BREXIT! He said he was against it. I asked him if he had ever played a prank on his colleagues? He really was not able to answer this questions. He did not remember anything like a prank he did. Though he said he once wore a hippie dress to his Arabic language class and four years later when he went back to the language centre to learn Spanish the woman there remembered him as the hippie from the Arabic class. I found David Lelliott an awesome person!

Falling in the Trap, every time, again and again

It seems to be the cyclic trap of life to me. When I first It seems to be the cyclic trap of life to me. someone nice, apart from just merely recognising their presence, I fall for them. I don’t have a neutral mindset. As much as I meet them and pay more attention, the person appears more attractive. Just to make clear this attractiveness is not love. What my mind does is it ignores the other part. It adheres to the person as they seem. And it hates everything that interferes this attractiveness. It exaggerates the person to be too great. Not keeping in mind the faults and disadvantages, it becomes a pleasure to just meet that person. It’s a trap I fall in everyday. And it is a cycle now. Half of them don’t turn out as I perceive. I hate myself for the same reason.

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